As someone who tends to worry a lot, I’ve been trying to adopt a more self-assured mindset.
One of the things that has helped me in this journey is observing people who seem to worry less than me.
I’ve noticed that there are certain things that confident individuals never seem to worry about, and I’ve been using this as inspiration to let go of my own worries.
After all, if self-assured people don’t worry about these things, why should I?
Here are some of the top things that I’ve observed confident individuals never seem to worry about:
1. Following Trends
The second thing that self-assured people never worry about is keeping up with trends.
They don’t bother with the latest celebrity gossip or music trends.
They don’t let the news or social issues define whether they are good or bad people.
Self-assured individuals have core values that drive and motivate them, and they don’t let trends influence their well-being.
They only pay attention to trends that align with their values and beliefs.
Keeping up with the latest hot topics or scandals for the sake of being “up to date” or cool is not worth worrying about and is completely off their radar.
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2. Dream Stealers
Self-assured people also never worry about haters and doubters (a.k.a. “dream stealers”), which is the next item on the list.
There will always be bitter and resentful individuals who seek to tear us down.
Doubters will chime in with reasons why our dreams will fail or why we’re not good enough.
Sometimes, these doubters may even be our own family, partners, or close friends, which can make it even more challenging.
However, self-assured individuals learn to drown out and ignore hate or doubt.
They understand that there are enough proactive things to focus on in life without paying attention to white noise from the peanut gallery.
3. People Pleasing
Self-assured individuals never worry about pleasing others because they understand that living life to please others is not living life on their own terms.
It means constantly performing and obeying others for their satisfaction, which can be a heavy burden to bear.
While the opinions of others may sometimes matter, it doesn’t mean that one should constantly worry about pleasing them.
Instead, self-assured individuals prioritize their own needs and desires, and let others worry about their own satisfaction.
4. The Success of Others
Confident individuals don’t stress over the success of others because they understand that everyone has their own journey and timeline.
They don’t compare themselves to others or measure their own success based on the achievements of others.
Instead, they focus on their own goals and progress, celebrating the accomplishments of others without feeling threatened or inferior.
5. Blame External Factors
Assigning blame is often necessary when things go wrong, and there may be one or more people responsible for specific issues.
However, the idea that we are all equally to blame is false.
Focusing on blame and worrying about it can be disempowering and trap you in a cycle of negativity.
Self-assured individuals don’t bother with this approach.
While they may have their beliefs about who’s to blame for any given situation, they are more focused on the way forward rather than the reason why things went wrong.
This proactive mindset empowers them to be a positive influence on others and an action-oriented force for change.
6. Following Fashion Fads
Fashion fads are like trends; they come and go.
One day it’s bell bottoms, and the next it’s ripped jeans or oversize jackets.
However, self-assured individuals develop their own style and don’t worry about conforming to society’s expectations when it comes to clothing and style.
They care about looking good, but it’s on their own terms, not based on ideas concocted by a corporate director on the Upper East Side.
The same goes for their choice of car, home design, and overall lifestyle.
While they may be influenced by design trends in architecture or fashion, they don’t spend much time worrying about them or paying attention to them.
They march to the beat of their own drum, confident in their personal style and choices.
7. Speculating about the Future
The future is inevitable, and we all hope to be alive to experience it.
However, worrying about what’s to come is a significant cause of anxiety, and self-assured individuals don’t waste their time on it.
While they certainly consider the future, they view it as an opportunity rather than a source of fear.
They don’t dwell on all the things that could go wrong, but instead focus on the potential for growth and success.
As Eckhart Tolle notes, “If uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness, and creativity.”
8. Outer Labels
Self-assured individuals are not concerned with outer labels, which is another item on their list of things not to worry about.
They don’t seek validation and approval because they possess inner self-confidence.
When you focus too much on outer labels, you disempower yourself and make premature judgments about others.
Underneath the surface-level labels and categories, there is always a real person, and self-assured individuals are not interested in just the shallow exterior.
They don’t worry about the labels that society attaches to themselves or others.
Instead, they seek to peel off these labels and discover what lies beneath them.
9. Regretting the Past
The next item on the list is the weight of past regrets.
We’ve all experienced them, but the more we fret about them, the more we shackle ourselves.
Self-assured individuals don’t fixate on past regrets.
They acknowledge them, glean any insights they can, and strive to move forward.
Although the pain of the past may resurface, they opt not to worry about it.
They recognize that life is full of ups and downs, and instead of dwelling on the downs, they focus on the ups ahead.
10. Worrying about Love
The next item on the list is a tough one, as finding and maintaining love can be a heartbreaking and challenging journey.
Almost everyone has experienced the pain of rejection, disappointment, or heartbreak in their quest for love.
However, self-assured individuals don’t worry or stress excessively about finding the right person or falling in love.
They understand that some aspects of love are beyond their control, so they focus on self-actualization and being true to themselves.
As they become more honest about who they are and what they value, they naturally gravitate towards someone who shares their track of self-honesty and vulnerability.
11. Embracing Pain and Struggle
Worrying about love only creates distance between oneself and the possibility of it.
Instead of worrying about love, self-assured individuals focus on their own progress, putting themselves back in the driver’s seat of their lives.
Life is an unpredictable journey that inevitably involves pain and struggle.
Even finding and marrying the love of your life means that one day mortality will take them away from you.
Building a successful business that never encounters a major problem still means that one day you will grow too old to operate it.
In addition, there are health issues, broken relationships, and emotional and physical wrongs that we all experience.
Life is full of pain and suffering, even for those who seem to have it all.
Self-assured individuals don’t worry about stopping or preventing pain and struggle.
They accept that some aspects of life are painful and that struggle is a natural part of existence.
They see the opportunity in these challenges and navigate them as best they can without adding to the pain and struggle by worrying about them.
12. Perfection
Confident individuals don’t stress over perfection because they understand that perfection is an unattainable standard.
They strive for excellence and do their best, but they also accept that mistakes and imperfections are a natural part of the human experience.
They don’t let the pursuit of perfection hold them back from taking action or trying new things.
13. Being vulnerable
Confident individuals don’t stress over being vulnerable because they understand that vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness.
They are willing to open up and share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with others, knowing that vulnerability can lead to deeper connections and relationships.
They don’t let the fear of judgment or rejection hold them back from being authentic and vulnerable with others.
Final Thoughts
In conclusion, confidence is not something that comes naturally to everyone.
However, by observing the behaviors and mindsets of self-assured individuals, we can learn to adopt a more confident and positive approach to life.
From focusing on our own goals and progress to letting go of unnecessary worries, there are many things that we can do to cultivate a more self-assured mindset.
By prioritizing our own values and beliefs, embracing our imperfections, and living in the present moment, we can learn to live a more fulfilling and confident life.
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