How would you describe your self-esteem? You’re not the only ones who struggle with this. Nevertheless, we don’t inherit low self-esteem from birth. It is difficult experiences, such as those in our families or close relationships, that give us self-confidence.
Maybe you were seldom praised, told that your value was conditional or even bullied. Regardless of the cause of your low self-confidence, you probably don’t believe you deserve the good things you want to attract in life.
To explore how self-confidence plays a key role in manifesting the life you’ve always wanted, check out our guide.
Key Nuggets
- Negative thoughts are junk food for the mind—logging them helps identify patterns to change.
- Snap out of negativity with a rubber band—replace harmful thoughts with empowering affirmations.
- Helping others helps you—compassionate acts boost your confidence and improve mental health.
- Self-confidence is life’s Wi-Fi signal—strong belief in yourself connects your actions to your dreams.
How to Boost Self-Confidence
I’ve got some good news here. It is totally possible to acquire and maintain the self-confidence you need for success by changing the negative thought patterns that make you believe you are worthless.
These are five steps to help you develop self-confidence.
1. Write Down Your Negative Thoughts.
Consider what happens if you fill up your body with junk; your physical health deteriorates.
Your mental health is no different. When you only feed your mind negative thoughts, your mental health is negatively affected. In much the same way some people mindlessly snack through a whole bag of potato chips without really noticing, many people also have an ongoing background commentary of negative thoughts throughout the day.
A negativity log will help you become more aware of this and work toward changing it (just like an app that boosts your physical health). Basically, you should write down every negative thought that comes to your mind. This technique can also help you identify negative thinking patterns, which can reveal any unfinished business you may need to finish (or deal with in therapy).
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2. Get Away From Negativity
As you become more aware of when and how you tend to think negatively about yourself, it’s important to stop these thoughts in their tracks when they arise.
If you catch yourself thinking badly of yourself, wear a rubber band and snap it each time you catch yourself.
As an example, if you’re trying to manifest love and you start to think you’re ugly as you’re leaving for a date, snap that band!
You can make this exercise more effective by adding another step after you snap the rubber band. In other words, take immediate action and replace negative thought with a positive one.
So, “I don’t look good enough” becomes “Everyone always compliments me on my smile.” At first, it may seem tedious, but if you let it become second nature, you will be amazed at how powerful it really is.
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3. Look At Yourself Through The Eyes Of Others…
If you can, you should come up with some concrete examples of what you like about yourself. Of course, if you’re dealing with low self-esteem, your list might be pretty short at first.
You can enhance your outlook by seeking feedback from people you trust; simply ask them what they appreciate about you and keep them in mind.
It’s vital that you select only those who will support you in your self-confidence-building quest, those who will understand what you’re doing and who can be relied upon to understand what you’re doing.
Use these comments however you wish. Consider pinning them to your mirror, putting them on sticky notes around the house, making them part of your affirmations, or setting them as reminders on your phone.
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4. Realize that self-confidence has to come from within
The feedback you receive from others is very helpful in the early stages, but long-term self-esteem should come from inside. You will only benefit from external feedback for a short period of time, and if you rely on it exclusively, you reinforce the dangerous view that your value is determined by how others see you.
Step three above can be seen as a way to put yourself on the first rung of the ladder of improved self-confidence, with an aim of throwing that ladder out from under you once you build a strong sense of worth within yourself.
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5. Put Your Focus Outside Yourself
Last but not least, if you are used to having low self-esteem then you may often feel trapped within yourself, thinking about your mistakes, comparing yourself to others, and wondering why you are not good enough. The rubber band technique described above can also be very useful for turning some of that intense focus outward. It’s about turning your attention outward, rather than inward.
The best way to do this is to channel some of your energy into something you are passionate about in a new way that allows you to learn and grow.
Whatever you do, whether you’re taking a new course, listening to confidence boost hypnosis audios, learning a new language, taking on a volunteer job, or writing about your experiences, you’re giving yourself more reasons to feel good.
It is important to remember that we help ourselves when we help others. Recent research indicates that people who perform compassionate acts are more likely to experience positive emotions and score higher on mental health tests.
My Take
Here’s my take: self-confidence is the foundation of manifesting your dreams—it’s like the Wi-Fi signal for your life. Without it, nothing connects, and you’re stuck buffering. I learned this the hard way.
Years ago, I had big goals but couldn’t shake the voice in my head saying, “You’re not good enough.” It was like trying to build a skyscraper on quicksand—no matter how much effort I put in, nothing stuck.
One day, I decided to challenge those thoughts. I started small—writing down things I actually liked about myself (even if it was just, “You make great avocado toast”).
Over time, those little wins added up, and the doubt started to shrink.
Here’s the kicker: manifesting works when you believe you’re worthy of what you’re asking for. Confidence isn’t arrogance—it’s trust in your ability to create. Build that trust, and watch the magic unfold.
How To Measure Your Self-Esteem?
What level of self-esteem would you rate yourself at right now, from 0-10?
Taking the Self-Esteem-Ometer as an example, zero means virtually nothing, while ten means buckets of it. Where do you fall on the scale?
Regardless of your score, at one point or another, you have probably struggled with self-esteem. Everyone has. Although beauty, cosmetics, clothing, jewelry, and fitness industries would like you to believe otherwise, self-esteem cannot be achieved through external factors. No way.
As far as confidence is concerned, it does not come from aesthetics or from anything packaged in plastic. You cannot build lasting self-esteem on a few compliments from colleagues.
Despite nips and tucks, makeup, or any other alterations, if our relationship with ourselves is broken, we can never be truly happy.
It is only from the inside out that you can build lasting self-confidence!
And this is where we can help.
From easy-to-learn techniques for expressing yourself clearly to deep hypnosis sessions that rewire your brain for self-confidence, here is a Free Masterclasses for Self-Esteem to get you started:
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