What classy people don’t do: 9 things to avoid in every situation

Traits of a classy person
Traits of a classy person
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There is more to class than just dining at a lavish restaurant or dressing in designer clothes; anyone can do that.

Classy is something that can’t be bought, but someone must truly embody it to possess it.

Behavior and manners are important aspects of class.

While there are many things that classy people do, such as respecting others and being confident in themselves, there are just as many things that they never do.

It’s often as simple as eliminating certain actions and routines that elevates a person’s personality and draws the attention of others—like a gleaming diamond.

The following are nine things that classy people never do.

1) Believe They Are Better Than Others

When some people achieve a certain degree of wealth, their egos tend to grow as well.

They may be denied service at a restaurant because there are no tables available, and then play the “Do you know who I am?” card on a waiter who is simply doing their job.

True classy people, on the other hand, are not like that.

Even if a classy person earns a lot of money or drives a fancy automobile, they will always welcome everybody, regardless of social position.

They don’t consider themselves “too important” to greet waiters or doormen.

They realize the universe does not revolve around them.

They don’t use their heritage to get an advantage.

2) You Talk More Than You Listen

Some people enjoy talking because they want to impress the people around them.

However, the truth is that the more confident and self-assured someone is, the less likely they are to feel the need to prove themselves.

Classy people don’t try to dominate the discussion or steer it in a specific direction since they’re content to go with the flow.

They value listening to others since it provides them with an opportunity to learn.

3) Evaluate Theirselves in Relation to Others

Don’t misunderstand me. Most classy people have role people they aspire to be like, such as Michelle Obama, Natalie Portman, or Amal Clooney.

They do not, however, compare themselves to other mortals and feel awful about not having the same X or Y.

A classy person would not think about this for a single second because, in her opinion, we should aspire higher. They are also aware that we all have distinct courses and timelines.

They will appreciate but never be envious of others.

4) Interrupt People Who Are Speaking

When the other person is speaking, a classy person will not interrupt them. They don’t sit silently waiting for a response either.

A classy person listens intently, leans in to demonstrate interest in the conversation, and makes eye contact to convince the person that they’re paying attention.

Only when the person has completed speaking do they answer with their own thoughts.

Classy people do not hold or place their phone on the table while conversing with others.

They don’t look around beyond the person they’re speaking with.

When a classy person speaks to someone, they pay complete attention to that person, as if that person is the most important person in the world.

5) Spend Time on Gossip

Classy people cherish their time as well as their mental wellness. After all, they know they’re supposed to be great, which implies they should be spending their time doing important things!

They are well aware that gossip adds nothing to their professional or personal lives, or to humanity as a whole. It may perhaps cause more harm than good. Gossip people how we think and interact with others.

Sure, classy people will nod and smile when people gossip because they don’t want to be impolite, but they will probably move the subject to something more relevant or find a way to excuse themselves.

6) They frequently lose their cool

They would not contact the manager to chastise a waiter if their order was incorrect.

A classy person understands that the waiter may have made an honest mistake.

They are not the kind to become enraged at a customer support representative if they are having troubles with something they purchased.

Classy people understand that these people are merely doing their jobs.

When things don’t go their way, they may be disappointed, but they will not lash out in wrath.

They maintain their cool and seek assistance when necessary.

7) Play Games with Others

When other people desire something, they may gently persuade others to get it.

If they require assistance, they may guilt-trip others by claiming that everyone else would have been willing to assist.

A classy person, on the other hand, makes their desires as apparent as possible.

They understand that being explicit reduces confusion and develops confidence with others.

8) They’ve Forgotten Their Manners

If you have the opportunity to go out to dinner with a classy person, observe how they prepare to eat.

When they speak to the waiter, they do not address them as a servant.

They speak to them as if they are friends, and they may even use their first name when ordering their lunch.

They never forget to say “Please” and “Thank You” to them.

When they’re ready to eat, they fold their napkin and sit up straight.

Even if they are hungry, they will not gorge themselves on food as if they are starving.

And they never put their elbows on the table when they speak.

They act this way in whatever restaurant they visit, no matter how posh it is.

9) Make an attempt to change what is beyond their control.

“After all,” observed Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, an American poet, “the finest thing one can do when it rains is to let it rain.”

Many things in life are beyond our control and generate stress and frustration.

On the way to work, there was a traffic jam.

On a memorable day, the rain fell. What others think of us.

The naive believe they can change these things to their liking.

The knowledgeable understand that this is impossible.

They recognize that there are things in life that we can control – our patience and humility – and those that we can’t.

The smart are so productive in their life and job because they focus on what they can control.

Last but not least:

Pretend to be someone they’re not.

Often, society can persuade people to become someone they are not simply because that personality is popular.

If the conventional “bad boy/girl” trend becomes popular, they will not join the crowds of people changing their image to avoid appearing as an outcast.

In truth, a classy person does not totally emulate anyone else’s style but their own.

Sure, she draws inspiration from prominent people like Oprah and Anna Wintour, but they all have their own identities.

You can tell them apart from a crowd of people because they don’t dress or speak the way they do just because it’s what’s popular right now.