Am I a Good Person? These 8 Traits Will Tell (Don’t Be Too Nice Though)

Occasionally, you might feel like you’re a bad person. There might be times when you get into arguments, or when people say you’re too snobbish.

Well, I’m here to tell you that none of these traits indicate how “good” or “bad” a person is.

Instead, I’ll describe the distinguishing traits of a truly good person. I’m sure you recognize most, if not all, of these traits in yourself.

1) You are a man/woman of your word.

You might not always have a smile on your face or donate to all the causes you can afford to support… However, when you make a commitment, you keep it.

When you say you’ll be somewhere at 9 a.m., you WILL BE THERE AT 9 a.m. precise.

You may dislike your nephew, but if you agree to babysit him, you will do so.

You despise disappointing others, and violating people’s trust is the last thing on your mind.

Finally, this demonstrates that you value and care about other people… even if you make no effort to appear polite.

2) You don’t want to be an inconvenience to others.

You attempt to bear your own weight.

If you’re an adult, you understand that you are solely responsible for yourself and no one else.

At the very least, you clean up your mess, follow the rules, and take care of yourself so that others aren’t concerned about you.

You make every effort not to continuously asking for aid from those around you because you understand that we all have our own burdens to carry.

3) You are accepting of differences.

You are not immune to getting into arguments and even raising your voice on occasion.

That’s very understandable. It can be really frustrating at times to speak with someone who comes from a completely different background than you.

But, in the end, you realize we all deserve respect. Furthermore, it is also possible that you are incorrect or that they are partially correct.

So, rather than breaking up friendships because of disagreements, you decide to tolerate them and even strive to understand their point of view.

4) You make an effort to be the greater person.

It’s not always simple to be the more mature person in the room. Even YOU might be tempted to go to their level and fight fire with fire at times.

There would be a part of you that wondered, “Why do I have to constantly be the understanding one?”

And your retort would be that an eye for an eye blinds the world.

So, rather of falling to their level, you either preserve the high ground or leave if you recognize that engaging with them will accomplish nothing.

5) Forgiveness comes easily to you.

You’re not flawless, and you don’t expect anyone else to be.

In fact, you expect them to be flawed, so anything “bad” they do does not surprise you.

As a result, you find it very easy to forgive. You, of course, do not harbor grudges.

You’re not a slacker—forgiving does not always imply forgetting. But you are aware that forgiveness is one of the most valuable gifts you can give to another person in order to put their mind at peace.

Being a good person does not depend on your religion, social status, race, skin color, political beliefs, or culture. It is determined by how you treat people.

6) You don’t hesitate to assist someone in need.

When you observe an elderly man struggling with his groceries, the first thing that comes to mind is to assist him. So you approach him and ask if he needs assistance.

Your new coworker is about to burst into tears since she is struggling to make a deadline… As a result, you stay behind to be with her.

And if you witness someone being catcalled or tormented, you will gladly run to their aid.

As far as you’re concerned, if someone needs assistance in any way, it’s a no-brainer to offer assistance as long as you’re able.

It’s not that you’re naive; you understand that assisting others can lead to them abusing your goodwill, but you’re prepared to put your neck out even when no one else is.

7) You look for good in people.

A lot of individuals in this world are far too quick to judge others.

You’ve probably seen them before.

“I think she’s trying too hard,” the others would comment when an innocent and well-meaning neighbor offered some casserole.

Or someone may declare, “I enjoy plushies,” and others may comment on how immature they are, which is why they can’t keep down a job.

And you, well, you despise it. Living is difficult enough, and the last thing anyone needs is for others to pull them down over the smallest mistake.

You’d rather trust people and look for the best in them.

8) Even when you’re stressed, you attempt to be patient.

Naturally, you become frustrated. You groan, whine, and occasionally lash out. This is normal—we’re all human, and we’re all flawed.

But the truth is, you do your best to keep from hurting others.

You attempt to be as patient as you possibly can. You attempt to keep your mouth shut even when people are clearly trying to provoke you, and you keep your distance when you’re upset or anxious.

You still have a long way to go before you can legitimately claim to be zen, but the fact that you’re continually monitoring and improving your anger is a good indicator.

Don’t overlook these two “good person” personality traits as well:

You make an effort to lift the spirits of others.

You don’t consider yourself to be a cheerful person—you’re not one of those bright and joyful folks that light up the room just by being there. In fact, you’re the polar opposite…

But you still attempt to brighten others happy, whether it’s by sharing a meme, preparing a good meal, or giving someone chocolate when they’re down.

You consider it an obligation to make a small contribution. You know you can’t just take from others… So you make a point of giving something from time to time, even if it’s as simple as your attention.

You frequently question whether you are a good person.

People who are certain that they are good are the ones who find it simplest to be cruel.

This is something we see a lot of religious people do. They commit atrocities because they believe God is on their side, thus they must be good.

A truly good person recognizes that they are not flawless and will not allow praises such as “you’re such a nice person” to get to their head.

And if you’re actually good, you’d be wondering, “Am I really a good person?” and strive to be the greatest that you can be.

Qualities of a good person according to my own personal experience

• They have an open mind about other people’s viewpoints.

• They admit when they are mistaken and try to learn from their mistakes.

• They exude a positive aura that attracts people.

• They are dependable and trustworthy not only when it counts.

• They have a warmth about them that makes you feel as though you can tell them anything.

• They constantly have a positive attitude toward life.

• They gave everyone a chance to shine.

• They do not strive to outdo others by discussing their own personal experiences.

• They allow others to finish their thoughts and stories.

• They are patient, compassionate, and empathetic.

• They also have a high level of emotional intelligence.

• They are genuinely pleased for others’ success and give their assistance.

• They speak slowly and listen quickly.

Final Thoughts

Being a good person is not something you demonstrate to others, and it is not assessed by how happy others get around you or how popular you are.

In truth, many very evil people hide behind the impression of being the person that lights up the room or the sweetest friend you’ve ever met.

Goodness is embedded in who you are and how you perceive others. Do you consider other individuals to be thinking, feeling creatures like you? Do you respect people regardless of their social standing?

A “yes” to both of these questions indicates that you have the foundations and personality traits for being a genuinely good person.

Now that you’ve read about the characteristics of a good person, keep reading for a contradictory perspective on why it’s necessary to quit striving to be “too kind.”