Your partner, how well do you know them? Do they possess attributes that will assist you in becoming a better person?
Do they have any tendencies that make you reconsider your relationship? Have you had the opportunity to get to know both their greatest and worst qualities?
These are the questions that, if answered, can help you determine whether or not you’re with the proper person.
However, keep in mind that not all relationships are ideal, and maintaining an open mind regarding which flaws are worth your understanding is vital.
If you’re curious about the nature of your relationship, check out our article about the different types of relationships and how to deal with them.
What makes a relationship healthy: 11 key traits
1) Pain
Love is not an unpleasant experience. Growth is difficult, but love should not hurt you, keep you awake at night, make you doubt your sanity, or make you unhappy.
2) Spot the lesson.
Every relationship, whether sexual or friendship-based, has an underlying lesson. The difficult part is recognizing the lesson and adjusting accordingly.
3) Unconditional love
Unconditional love is exactly that: unconditional. But don’t mix it up with abuse. You can’t love someone to change them; they must want to change themselves, and until they do, you’re wasting your time.
4) Communication
It is critical to communicate effectively. The relationship will fail from the outset if it is not heard and listened to. Understanding one another is critical. When your partner feels heard and prioritized, it can make all the difference.
5) Effort
They’re a lot of work, no, a lot of work. There will be conflicts, arguments, control issues, insecurities, and a load of other concerns that will arise. It’s how they’re managed while keeping your partner’s and your own best interests in mind and without becoming lost in the process.
6) Can’t fix each other
What you already have should be supplemented with a partner. A partner will not help you if you are running on empty in your spiritual or emotional view of yourself. That is codependency, and it is utterly terrible.
7) The honeymoon phase
The honeymoon or infatuation period lasts approximately 1-6 months. The longer it continues, the more likely you are in a toxic relationship with numerous “highs and lows.” Isn’t it exciting? It is possible, but it will drain your spirit over time.
8) Toxicity
If you are toxic, you will locate a partner who is equally or more poisonous than you. While this whirlwind affair will be intense and entertaining at times, it is extremely harmful. And if you do not correct yourself, you will continue to have tumultuous relationships with new partners.
9) Become friends first
Create a friendship first, and proceed with caution. People are so willing to get in the sack and begin the relationship intensity at a 10, but it should begin slowly and gradually grow to a 10. Few, if any, relationships make it to the 8-10 range and stay there.
10) Don’t escape yourself
Relationship “hop” is not something to do. You are escaping yourself by chasing relationships, not your next perfect partner. You will never find a partner who will fill the void inside of you if you can’t be alone. You will, however, find a partner to keep your well dry.
11) Be in full control
To be honest, you never truly know someone. You believe you do, but you don’t. Be entirely self-sufficient and content with yourself and your life, and your chances of meeting someone on the same path will skyrocket.
One last piece of advice
Write down the arguments you want to make and what you want to say before engaging in a difficult or uncomfortable conversation. This helps to organize your thoughts and ensures that you can explain everything you need to.
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