Tired of being attracted to the wrong guy? But most importantly, are you desperate to meet the right person? You may feel that it is impossible to attract the right men right now, but I assure you that there are specific effective steps you can follow.
As you can see in the article below, I have listed 15 proven ideas that work.
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What men aren’t attracted to
Now that I am older (well, quite a bit older!) I cringe at how I used to behave when I was younger with guys I liked. When I liked a guy, I would hang out at the bars and clubs where I knew he would be. Acting as if something was wrong would make him interested and want to help me.
I’d be all needy and chase him, practically offer myself on a plate to him. If I ever actually got to be in a relationship with a guy I’d want to spend every second with him. I’d get jealous if he wanted time with his mates. It was a complete nightmare!
This explains why I started attracting the wrong kind of men. When I was in a relationship, guys could see my desperate behavior. And they knew that they could use me. I was vulnerable. I could be easily manipulated.
For a while, the only men who approached me were those who wanted a stopgap girlfriend before something more serious could come along.
I wasn’t aware of my own behavior until I had been single for a while and noticed other people’s. I realized how stupid I was. Sending out those kinds of signals was bound to be used by men.
So how did I get the right kind of man to come to me? Actually, it’s not meant to be patronizing, but as we grow older we become more at ease with ourselves. We develop a greater sense of self-assurance. It becomes easier to understand what is and isn’t attractive to another person.
What Qualities Do We Find Attractive?
Trying to figure out how to attract the right men into your life can be difficult. What would you find attractive in a friend? Are there any characteristics you would seek in a man?
Maybe a loyal person? Someone who you can rely on when times get tough? Someone who encourages and supports you? Possibly. While all of those qualities are great to have in a relationship, I am referring specifically to what attracts you to someone in the first place.
Let’s start over. What about someone who loves to have fun? What about someone with a good job who is independent? How about someone who is well-balanced? Is it someone who maintains a good appearance and treats other people with kindness? Someone who enjoys animals and has a large circle of friends? A person who is good with their family?
These are the qualities that make a person attractive. How come? They demonstrate to us that this person is a well-rounded individual. They already live a happy life. Their happiness does not depend on anyone else. They already have it.
You would actually be the lucky one if they chose you to be a part of their lives. Everyone wants to be a part of something that is successful. Nobody wants to be a part of something boring or negative. If you think about it, it’s really not that hard.
Let’s get to the point. Say, for example, you’re trying to find a partner but haven’t had any luck. What will you do to find your partner if you are willing to step out of your comfort zone? Now here is my dating advice on how to attract the right man.
17 Ways On How Do I Attract The Right Man Into My Life
1. Become the person you want to attract
Unless you are living the same life as he is, you’ll never catch the attention of the right guy. So you love the outdoors, but you never venture outside? Do you love car racing but you never visit the track? If you prefer bookish types, do you go to the gym instead?
People we spend time with draw us to them. Therefore, if you want a fit gym bunny, you won’t find him eating at a fast food outlet every day. Be the person that you want to attract, not the one that you want.
2. Forget past triggers
Potential relationships can be ruined easily when they are tainted by past relationships. There are triggers for us all. My trigger is dogs. An ex-boyfriend disliked my dog. He wasn’t cruel, but I eventually left with the dog.
Even now, 20 years later, when anyone says anything negative about my dogs, I am enraged. Recognizing any triggers is very important because it is not your current partner but your ex who is responsible.
3. Develop your self-esteem
When you don’t love and respect yourself, how can anyone love and respect you? Being a well-balanced individual in yourself is necessary before you can attract a man.
Your search for a partner should not be based on their ability to complete you. You should strive to be the best version of yourself. Men are drawn to confident, independent women. Men are not drawn to women who are desperate and needy. You have to shine brightly to attract them!
4. Recognize that you deserve to be loved
Respecting and loving yourself goes hand-in-hand with this. Some people feel they do not deserve the good things in life. If you do not believe it, then you will not receive it. You need to understand that you deserve happiness. You deserve to be loved.
5. Improve Confidence
The one thing men like is confidence. It is not necessary for guys to think you are beautiful for you to be sexy. However, you must be confident.
With a swagger of the hips, a dazzling smile, and a witty putdown, you’ll get the attention of any guy. Men will drool over you and fall at your feet if you’re sassy.
6. Stay true to yourself
What were some of the responses men gave when asked what women were attractive to them? The ability to be themselves. Freedom from pretending.
Therefore, you can guess what I will suggest. Definitely! You should do exactly the same. Let the guys see your goofy side. Don’t be afraid to laugh at your mistakes or pratfalls. Show self-deprecation and remain cool under pressure. Stay true to yourself!
7. Always strive to expand your horizons
The larger your horizons the wider pool of potential men you’ll have access to. In fact, the more you invest in yourself as a person and a woman, it is more likely that the right kind of man will notice you.
Therefore, travel the world, attend university, and enroll in educational programs. It will put you in a position to attract hundreds, if not thousands, of the right kind of men.
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8. Strive to become an independent individual
Being independent has a lot to offer. Several women I know are in constant relationships and cannot stand to be alone for a moment. Although they are financially independent, they lack emotional stability.
Mentally and financially, strive to be your own woman. If the right man does come along, you will be a well-rounded individual ready for a relationship.
9. Don’t hide your passions
My friend explained the wonderful paradox of the quantum physics ‘Double Slit’ experiment on the first date. You should look it up if you don’t know. It’s fascinating. It’s the way light particles act differently when observed by an experimenter.
After she described the finer points of her date to him, he proposed to her. Of course, she laughed, but they married months later. In the days that followed, he told friends that he knew she was the right woman for him because of the look of passion in her eyes as she described the experiment.
10. Don’t hide your strong network
In your opinion, what is one thing that shows a guy that you are a well-rounded individual? A strong family ties and a lot of good friends. A person whose friends have been around for decades fills us with confidence that he or she has the ability to maintain relationships.
When we see someone who is close to their family, we know they are capable of forming close bonds. They are all good signs of a well-balanced person.
11. Take care of your appearance
I’m not telling you to get a boob job or have your lips filled, just be clean and wear nice clothes. Don’t wear things that you’re not used to, such as high-heeled shoes.
Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable. Do not overuse makeup and get regular haircuts.
12. Stay open to new possibilities
You should stop adhering to a type if you’ve always had one. Maybe you’ve always liked tall, dark guys. You never give blond shorter guys a chance. Perhaps he was the right person and you overlooked him.
Open your eyes to all possibilities, not only your preferences, and you may be pleasantly surprised. Keep in mind that looks don’t last forever, but personality does.
13. Avoid being desperate
Keep acting desperate if you want to date the wrong kind of man. Sure, it’s a bummer when everyone else has a great love life and you don’t. However, a little time being single isn’t so bad.
You can use it to improve your self-esteem and respect. Remember, men can smell a desperate woman a mile away and they’ll take advantage of you.
14. Don’t be easy to get
Playing hard to get is the opposite of being desperate. A man loves to chase after women. Men value something they have to work for. Be that woman men work hard to spend time with. Never give up after the first date!
15. Decide what you want
Many women think that they shouldn’t admit they want a relationship, but being honest is always the best policy. This will prevent players from slipping through the cracks.
Last but not least…
Take a risk and try something new. Get rid of all your old habits now. An old saying states that you shouldn’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. Change your routine if you have always attracted the wrong kind of guy.
Try a new bar, if you always pay for drinks, don’t, if you never talk about your feelings, do. I’m sure you get the picture.
It’s time to get out there! The dating advice given here is meaningless unless you actually take it to heart. So if you’re looking for the right guy.
Frequently Asked Questions:
What are the best ways to attract the right man into my life?
You can do this by focusing on being your best. What we give to the world is returned to us. By being positive and working on yourself, you will attract like-minded men who share your beliefs.
I want to attract a guy. What should I do?
Positive people tend to attract positive people. Negative people do the same. It’s important to be grateful for what you already have. Avoid comparing yourself to others. Take charge of your life and follow your own path. You will find the right man if you live life to the fullest.
How do you attract the right person into your life?
The key is to have a sense of confidence. Someone who is constantly down on themselves is not someone anyone wants to be around. The wrong people will be drawn to you. If you start believing in yourself, your self-esteem will naturally spread.
You deserve to attract love, but how do you do that?
Respecting and loving ourselves is the only way for others to do the same. You will not get a good relationship if you do not believe that you are worthy. You’ll be able to attract the right men if you present yourself as a catch worth winning.
What can I do to attract love in 2023?
Unprecedented times certainly are upon us. We are dating differently than ever before. Nevertheless, attracting love can be found in your own passions (my new article: how to find your passions in life). If you enjoy being outside, for example, take long walks. Chances are, someone who shares your passion will cross your path. Take an art class if you are artistic.
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In conclusion
So there you go. That’s how to attract men into your life. Enjoyed reading this? I would love to hear from you if you have any tips.
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