Can’t Stop Thinking About Him, What Does It Mean? (And How To Stop)

Have a man stuck in your brain that won’t go away? Not sure what to do? Having a guy on your mind all the time may be really annoying, especially when you’d want to concentrate on anything else.

After all, it might be hard to go on with your life and maintain your composure if you can’t stop thinking about him.

It could be challenging for you to be present and keep your attention on what you want to do.
But don’t worry, you are where you need to be.

I’m Andy Force, the creator of Sons Of Universe, and I’ve devoted countless hours to learning about psychology and the science of attraction. In this essay, I’ll share all I’ve discovered in an effort to help you stop thinking about this person.

I’ll start by discussing the potential causes of your potential obsession with this man. Then we’ll talk about what you can do about it.

There is a lot to discuss, so let’s get going.

Note: If you wish to learn more about the art of dating, be sure to also check out the article we dedicated to unconventional dating advice for women and the 12 golden tips you wish you’d known earlier.

Here are 12 reasons why that one person keeps popping into your head

1) You’re in love

First things first, you may be in love, which might explain everything.

Simple, I realize.

Though this isn’t always the case, most people assume that when you can’t stop thinking about a person, you’re in love with him.

Maybe you two get along wonderfully. You are aware of your attraction to him. You believe that he likes you, and you are consumed with thoughts of him and what a potential relationship may entail.
Alternatively, it’s possible that you like him but that he doesn’t feel the same way about you.
In any case, it is love that has caused him to remain in your thoughts.

Why does love treat us like this?

Well, when you first fall in love, your hormones and brain chemistry are out of control.
Every time you see your boyfriend, touch him, or even just think about him, dopamine (the happy chemical) is released.

Dopamine is intensely released when you feel you have finally discovered “the one.”
Basically, the ecstatic, head-over-heels aspect of love is caused by dopamine.

Dopamine is related to sensations of happiness, bliss, motivation, and focus, according to Medical News Today.

Therefore, if you have met your true love, you may feel incredibly grateful and glad to be with them. You’ll be inspired to maintain the connection as well.

It’s also crucial to remember that the brain chemical phenylethylamine, sometimes known as PEA, triggers the production of dopamine.

This chemical is also released when you first start to fall in love. It is a stimulant and might make your heart race and cause you to perspire.

In the early phases of love, dopamine and PEA can also make you feel wonderful, but they can also make you feel nervous and obsessed.

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2) You two are soul mates.

Perhaps the two of you were always destined to be together.

Let’s face it: We may waste a lot of time and effort on individuals who ultimately aren’t the right fit for us. Although relationships might start out well, all too frequently they fade and you find yourself back alone.

I was thrilled when I came across a gifted psychic artist who created a drawing of my partner for me because of this.At first, I was a little hesitant, but my friend persuaded me to give it a shot.
I now have a clear picture of who my soul partner looks like. And what’s even stranger is that I instantly recognized them.

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3) You’re madly in love

Perhaps it isn’t real love. It might have more to do with infatuation.

This indicates your attraction in the individual and your intense curiosity about his background and personality.

You could even be fantasizing about him. Perhaps you’re not truly taking him seriously since you know that a relationship between the two of you will never last.

But even so, you can’t help but be simultaneously intrigued, curious, and drawn to him.

Although he occupies the majority of your thoughts, you know in your heart that a relationship between you two would never last and that this sensation would pass.

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4) What could a wise counselor say?

You can get a solid understanding of why you can’t stop thinking about him by looking at the indications in this article above and below.

However, speaking with and getting advice from a highly intuitive individual may be quite beneficial.

Your anxieties and worries will be allayed and all your relationship issues will be answered. Why, for instance, is he so much on your mind? Is this the one?

After going through a difficult period in my relationship, I recently met with a representative from Kasamba. After spending so much time alone with my thoughts, they offered me a special perspective on where my life was heading and who I was supposed to be with.

I was truly astounded by how considerate, understanding, and knowledgable they were.

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In this love reading, a talented counselor may let you know where you are with him and, more significantly, give you the confidence you need to choose the correct partner.

5) You’re drawn to him sexually

You’re enamored with him. You find yourself wanting to perform the dirty-dirty with him.
Perhaps the last time you had sex with him was so fantastic that you want to have it again.
Another possibility is that even if you haven’t had sex with him yet, your mind and body are inexplicably drawn to him.

It doesn’t matter what it is; this is totally natural. All of us are human. And occasionally we all experience attraction to a man we didn’t expect.

For instance, it may frequently be a person who truly irritates you. He may be a bit unpleasant, or he could berate you and argue with you all the time.

But something about this terrible boy makes you think about him all the time.

6) You might be horny

It may sound crude, but here at Sons Of Universe, we don’t waste time 😉

You’ve spent some time with him recently, and while there may not be anything particularly remarkable about him, to be really honest, you’re just hot for anyone.

Look, there are times in life when we feel sexually charged, and perhaps this is one of those times for you right now.

It doesn’t imply you should act on it; that’s up to you! But be aware that your sexual energy fluctuate and that this strong desire will eventually fade.

7) You have a problem with daydreaming

There is no avoiding it, believe me. A great technique to fantasize and divert your attention is via romance.

You have the ability to escape reality and accomplish things you never believed possible.

Even if you may be aware that a relationship with this person wouldn’t work out, it definitely is enjoyable to play dirty with him in your head!

But what I’m trying to say is that it could not be be about him that has him stuck in your thoughts.
Really, all you’re doing is utilizing it as a means of denial. After all, daydreaming is a fantastic means of escaping the present.

Perhaps you’re attempting to avoid dealing with problems in your personal or professional life.
All of us have been there. People dislike unpleasant circumstances. In an effort to avoid feeling unpleasant, many of us avoid facing our difficulties.

Or maybe you’re simply a little bored right now. You lead a regular life with little to do.

And this person is giving you the mental escape you so urgently need.

8) He is a really perplexing man.

Maybe the signs he’s sending you are just confusing you. You are unsure of whether he likes you or doesn’t find you attractive.

You also find yourself thinking about him and how he feels about you since you are searching for an answer.

He fluctuates in temperature, and you are examining every action he takes in search of the solution.

Maybe you’re not giving the person you’re thinking about what he actually wants if he’s confusing you.

Unrelated to love or sex, did you know that men naturally yearn for something “greater”?

Simply said, males have a biological urge to support the woman they care about and to feel wanted and valued.

The hero instinct is what relationship psychologist James Bauer refers to.

Male wants, as James contends, are not complex; rather, they are misinterpreted. Human behavior is strongly influenced by instincts, and this is particularly true of how males approach romantic relationships.

How can you make him feel this urge? How can you offer him the sense of significance and direction he seeks?

James Bauer offers a number of options in his most recent video. He shares words, texts, and impertinent demands that you may utilize right away to elevate his sense of importance in your eyes.

View his original video here.

You’ll not only make him happier by appealing to this very basic male desire, but you’ll also assist take your relationship to the next level.

Here is another link to his unlocked video.

9) You keep picturing yourself with this person in the future.

This relates to the previous statement about daydreaming.

We all want to imagine a possible future in which things are better than they are right now.

People do this frequently, especially to unwind and go asleep. Perhaps you’re obsessed to imagining what life would be like if you dated this person in the future.

The issue?

You’re not really present and contemplating if things could work out between the two of you right now.

10) You two are in a relationship, but you’re not sure where it’s going.

This is a widespread problem that affects lots of people.

Sometimes you have what is known as “relationship anxiety” while you’re casually dating someone or even in a relationship with someone.

This indicates that you are evaluating the connection and their sincerity in their affections for you.
Even while you may be certain that you like him, you may be unsure of whether he feels the same way. Perhaps it has nothing to do with his or your sentiments at all.

Maybe you’re just concerned that the two of you won’t be able to maintain a relationship.

Relationship anxiety is common no matter what, but if it starts to interfere with your everyday life, it could be a good idea to talk to the person and hash out your thoughts and where your relationship is going.

11) You’re not sure whether or not this guy is worth it.

Despite how straightforward they may seem on the surface, guys may be really difficult to understand. They are inquisitive animals.

What does he intend to do? Is he a decent man? Or is he only a player who understands the rules of the game?You’re just unsure of your feelings for him and if a relationship will work in the long run.
As a result, you can’t help but consider him since you need to make a significant choice.
Does he deserve a chance, or not? Or ought to you throw him out?

12) He appears to be better than he actually is in your imagination.

You could be picturing a man who doesn’t really exist.

Confused? I’ll explain.

You see, I’m willing to gamble that you may not know him all that well and that you have created this idealized vision of him in your head.

And because of how wonderful he is, you find yourself thinking about him constantly and conjuring up scenarios where he might be even better.

He could be a nice man, but let me be quite clear: Nobody is perfect. And it’s really foolish of you to think of this man as flawless.

Furthermore, by expecting too much, you can end up being disappointed when you do ultimately get to know him better.

Because of this, you start to become fixated on the theory you’ve developed about him, but you’re also making a lot of assumptions without knowing how correct they are.

The problem with having high expectations is that they predispose us to disappointment and heartache.

The fact is that most of us fail to take into account a vital aspect of our relationships with ourselves.

Last but not least… He doesn’t find you attractive

People become fixated on things they cannot have. What causes people to “play hard to get”? …because it works!

You are aware that he is not in your league and is not attracted to you. He may have made it extremely plain, in fact. But that only increases your desire for him.

That’s why you find yourself thinking about him often.

Let’s discuss how to quit thinking about this man now that we’ve discussed the reasons why you’re thinking about him. After all, you’re presumably reading this essay for that purpose.

How to quit imagining this man in these 8 ways

1) Don’t attempt to ignore him

I am aware that. It has an odd tone.

You should, you know, actively attempt to stop thinking about this man if you want to stop thinking about him.

But the more you attempt to force ideas out of your mind, the more you’ll think about those thoughts when it comes to your mind.

Do you currently practice meditation?

Did you discover that despite your best efforts to quiet your mind, distracting ideas simply kept popping into your head?

Many newcomers to meditation report having similar experiences.

Why?

Because you’re really giving your mind and ideas more energy by attempting to manipulate them into not thinking anything.

In essence, you are fighting fire with fire.

So, if you think about this person and become upset every time, you’ll only think about him more.

Try to resist giving it any energy instead. Do not feel guilty about thinking about this man.

Simply acknowledge your thoughts regarding him before doing or thinking about something else.

Don’t lose your cool. Don’t “attempt” to block him out of your mind. You may concentrate on other thoughts and deeds once you acknowledge that you are thinking about this individual.

The energy you’re providing your thoughts will gradually dissipate once you start to forgive yourself for thinking about him.

2) Take a break from him

Do you frequently see this person?

It’s true that you won’t be able to put this person out of your mind if you’re in frequent communication with him.

It could be time to take a break from him if you find it bothersome that you think about him so frequently.

Avoid becoming overly reactive on social media. Don’t let him decide when you should hang out.

Get busy by visiting and engaging with others.

Blocking him on social media and your messaging apps could be a smart idea if you recently broke up with him and you can’t stop thinking about him.

You must leave some distance between the two of you.

You need to establish some ground rules for yourself if you just started dating this person and are very smitten with him.

Make a deal with yourself that you won’t see him more than once or twice every week.

This is a fantastic approach to calm down and simply take a step back from moving too quickly.

3) Have a sincere discussion with him.

Depending on the circumstances, an open discussion with him might work wonders for you and your relationship. For example, if you’re struggling with relationship anxiety.

Sincere to say, communication is crucial in all relationships.

You’ll gain insight on the relationship and your future if you can express your feelings of insecurity and anxiety over his actions and the direction the relationship is taking.

4) Reduced phone usage

Can you believe that not so long ago, there was a period when…
Approximately 30 years ago…

Partners did not communicate at all until they arrived back at the house at night after leaving the house in the morning for work.

Mobile phones weren’t around or weren’t common back then. Unless there is an emergency, personal calls are often prohibited in the workplace.

This meant that spouses did not interact with one another for 8 to 10 hours each day.

They thus enjoyed a respite from one another.

They had a topic to discuss during dinner, including the traditional “How was your day?”

How frequently do you communicate over the phone in your relationship? Is it too much?

This could be a crucial factor in your inability to quit thinking about him.

Pick a day that is a full 24 hours to test it out. Be proactive and keep note of EVERY time you communicate with the other (not reactive such as replying with a short comment or emoji).

This includes publishing links, sending photographs, and forwarding messages in addition to voice and chat.

Keep a proactive log of ALL the times he spoke with you throughout the same 24-hour period.

The proactive phone numbers for your 24-hour period are shown below. How much do the two numbers differ from one another? How much MORE in touch with you does he have than you do with him, in other words?

If the difference exceeds 5, you could be texting him excessively.

The answer?

Send fewer texts in response. Give your response time. Inform him that you are occupied.
The less you communicate with him, the less you’ll have to consider him.

5) Begin taking up more activities in your life.

It’s a good idea to take a step back and consider your life as a whole when we become fixated on anything.

How well-balanced is your life? Do you like any other pastimes? To focus on projects of passion? To spend around with friends?

The time is now for you to concentrate on other aspects of your life.

And to be completely honest, a person who leads a balanced life typically does so with happiness.

Obsessing on one subject is typically not a good thing.

Your romantic life will benefit from it as well. People with a busier schedule tend to be more appealing.

Engaging in interests and activities can help you forget about this person, and who knows, if you get out more, you could run into someone new.

6) Compliment yourself.

If you can’t stop thinking about him, there’s little doubt that you’re definitely falling for this person rather strongly.

Therefore, instead of showering this guy with affection, why not express your gratitude to yourself?

To live a fulfilling life and increase your self-confidence, you must learn to love yourself.
When we cherish who we are and love being alone ourselves, we frequently don’t turn elsewhere for happiness in life.

True contentment and inner tranquility originate from inside, after all.

But if you’re thinking about him all the time, it’s very clear that you’re looking for fulfillment and happiness elsewhere.

You could feel lonely. It’s possible that you’re trying to fill a hole in your life.

Whatever it is, you’ll have less of a gap to fill if you can learn to love yourself and be content spending time with yourself.

So, give yourself some time. Participate in the hobbies and endeavors you like.

Lead a healthy lifestyle. Get in shape. Take care of your physique. Just make sure you’re being kind to yourself, whatever that may be.

And understand that you don’t need a guy to fill you with joy and completeness.

7) Address the rest of your life’s issues.

It’s time to confront your difficulties and find a solution if you believe that there are areas of your life that you are unhappy with.

You could be thinking about this man to take your mind off these issues. After all, daydreaming is an escape from the present.

Obviously, I can’t answer exactly to what those concerns could be, but I do know that if you can endure the discomfort of doing so in order to address your problems, you’ll be much happier in the long run.

Since problems don’t just vanish, avoiding them often results in worse difficulties down the road.

Particularly with negative emotions, this is true.

Negative emotions like melancholy and anxiety are unpleasant for humans.

However, they eventually worsen the more you avoid them.

However, as time passes and you learn to accept and acknowledge them, you’ll experience more tranquility in general.

8) Time to forgive him

It’s time to forgive your ex and move on if you’ve recently broken up with them but can’t stop thinking about them.

It’s difficult, I know. But whatever transpired between the two of you, it is over now.

You’ll be able to let him go and move on with your life more quickly the sooner you accept that it is finished.

And look, perhaps he actually did damage you. He could have done something terrible. However, you’re doing yourself a favor if you continue to harbor your bitterness and animosity toward your ex.

You simply can’t get over your bitterness and move on.

Don’t act that way. You must continue living your life. And forgiving the man is the greatest way to accomplish that.

He’s no longer your boyfriend. He may be a scumbag.

However, let it be known that an asshole doesn’t merit a place in your thoughts, so accept that your connection with him is over and extend forgiveness.

Another problem can be that you caused the breakup and are having trouble moving past what you did.

Perhaps it keeps repeating in your head. What else could you have done?

But just as you must forgive an asshole for their deeds, you also must be able to forgive yourself.

Everyone makes errors. After all, we are all human. What’s done, though, is done. It cannot be altered.

You may, however, move on from your errors, forgive yourself, and become a stronger, better person by learning from them.

9) Talk to several other men

It could be time to get out and meet new people if you’re thinking about a guy you can never have or about a guy with whom your relationship is gone.

You’ll see that there are many of fish in the sea and that your infatuation with this one particular person is actually unnecessary if you can get out there and meet some other guys.

There are other men who resemble him. Additionally, they are truly accessible as well!

You may count on me to tell you that your boyfriend is neither unique nor ideal. No, nobody is flawless. Your imagination is the only one to have created this erroneous picture of him.

Meeting other males is the greatest method for you to realize that he is neither distinctive nor unique.

Utilize dating apps. On Saturday evenings, go out. There are many ways to meet new people and find new guys, whatever it may be.

Take it a step further

One of the finest things you can do if you can’t stop thinking about him is to try a relationship. In this manner, you will be able to determine whether or not you two have a future together.

Even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll at least know for sure. And this will make you quit thinking about him all the time.

However, there could be something more there.

So, how do you take the first step to discover whether there is chemistry between the two of you?
It’s time to unleash his inner hero.

When it comes to relationships, there is one thing that men desire more than anything else.

They aspire to be a common person’s hero.

It’s not about the capes or swooping in spectacularly to save the day. It’s about gaining your respect, instead.

Your relationship has a good chance of succeeding if you can make a man feel that way.

James Bauer demonstrates in his great free video the precise words, letters, and demands you may use to activate his hero instinct (and supercharge the chemistry in your relationship).

It’s the ideal strategy to get him to change his perspective about you. In a sense, you have the key to helping him find the version of himself that he has always desired.

Your connection might blossom if it is opened.

To watch the free video, click here.

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