You’ve been dating this guy for some time now, and you’d like to take the relationship to the next level.
So you make your move, and…nothing happens. He switches off the radio. Is he just that preoccupied with work? Or is it something totally different?
Here are 10 signs to look for to determine whether he’s truly busy or avoiding you.
Note: If you wish to learn more about the art of dating, be sure to also check out the article we dedicated to unconventional dating advice for women and the 12 golden tips you wish you’d known earlier.
1) He strives to see you whenever possible.
Look at how hard he tries to see you if you’re unsure whether he’s actually too busy or just creating an excuse.
Does he contact you when he has free time or does he avoid you on a regular basis?
Does he make an effort to connect with others when possible, or does he clearly prefer to be alone?
Of all, he could simply be busy from being overworked.
But here’s the thing:
If he likes you, he’ll make time, even if it’s only twenty minutes, to phone you during his lunch break at work.
2) He ghosts you partially
When a guy isn’t interested and uses his busy schedule as an excuse, it’s generally a type of ghosting.
He vanishes like an ethereal phantom, never to be seen again except to type out “not much, you?” every now and then, when asked how he is.
There’s no chance he’ll do this if he is actually very busy and still likes you.
Although he may take extended pauses between texts or phone calls, he’ll still keep you informed.
Even if he can’t text or message you all day, he’ll send you something as simple as “another day at the salt mines, have a good one!”
That way, even if he’s too busy to meet, you’ll know he’s thinking about you!
3) What advice would a relationship coach give?
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4) He calls you whenever he has unexpected free time.
When a guy is simply too busy but still likes you, he will contact you in his spare time.
He does other things with his free time when he’s merely using his busy life as an excuse.
He may hang out with his friends, go out for a drink, work on a side project, or perhaps meet up with other girls.
That is clearly not the conduct of someone who is interested in you.
The man who is truly interested in you will leap at the chance to meet up when he has a few days off.
He’s not going to waste it if he’s attracted to you and wants to get to know you better, believe me.
5) He rearranges his schedule
A guy who likes you doesn’t allow one canceled date define your relationship.
He changes the date.
Even if he is called in late for work or has a million other things going on in his life, he will do his damndest to make something work.
He works with you to establish a time that is convenient for both of you.
And if that’s not possible for a week or two, he apologizes sincerely, and it’s clear he truly means it.
A guy who refuses to reschedule and is busy about making things work is a guy who is just using his busyness as an excuse.
A guy who reschedules and is concerned about mixups, on the other hand, is a keeper.
6) He isn’t talking one thing while doing another.
Is he truly too busy or simply interested?
One of the simplest methods to know if somebody is talking the truth is to observe him on social media, which is one of the greatest ways to do so.
Sure, some people are astute players who will conceal their social media profile when making explanations.
But you’d be amazed at how many people don’t care or don’t realize they’re being caught in their lies.
Here’s an example:
A guy says he’s too busy to meet up for dinner today since he has “so much going on.”
Later that night, you see him in a VIP nightclub, with strippers draped across both arms and a bottle of pricey vodka in his hand.
Busted.
7) He is striving to be worthy of you.
Another indicator that he’s simply too busy is that he’s working hard partially to impress you and feel worthy.
If this is the case, you will notice that he is proud of his work and will tell you about it.
He doesn’t just give broad excuses or say he’s “busy” without going into more detail.
He proudly tells you why he’s too busy and lavishes you with your acknowledgement and admiration for what he does.
This pertains to the previously described unique concept of the hero instinct.
A man is more likely to feel significant attraction for a woman when he feels respected, productive, and required.
The best part is that igniting his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing what to say over text.
Watch this video by James Bauer to understand exactly what to do.
8) He’s evasive about why he’s so busy.
No male enjoys being followed and watched, so don’t start stalking a guy who tells you he’s too busy.
At the same time, if you’re busy in this man, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be curious about what he’s up to.
If you know his profession and he says he’s been working extra hours recently, it’s completely acceptable to inquire as to why.
So, if you’re not sure what he’s up to, there’s no reason not to inquire.
However, if he’s evasive or refuses to say anything, it’s most likely an excuse.
9) He assists you whenever possible.
Is he truly too busy or simply not interested?
It can be a difficult question to answer.
However, one of the most obvious clues is to observe his behavior rather than his words.
If he tries to assist you out when he can, despite his busy schedule, he probably likes you and is simply overburdened.
If he rarely lifts a finger for you, he’s probably simply being busy to hide his lack of interest.
For guys, it’s all about bringing out their inner hero.
The hero instinct taught me about this. This fascinating concept, coined by relationship expert James Bauer, is about what truly drives men in relationships and is imprinted in their DNA.
And it’s something that most ladies are unaware of.
When activated, these drivers transform men into the heroes of their own life. When they find someone who knows how to activate it, they feel better, love harder, and commit more strongly.
You may be wondering why it’s referred to as “the hero instinct.” Is it really necessary for men to feel like superheroes in order to commit to a woman?
Absolutely not. Leave Marvel alone. You won’t have to play the damsel in distress or get a cape for your man.
The truth is that there is no expense or sacrifice on your part. With just a few minor tweaks in your approach, you’ll be able to access a part of him that no other woman has.
The simplest option is to watch James Bauer’s great free video here. He offers some simple starting points, such as sending him a 12-word text that will immediately activate his hero instinct.
That’s the power of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing what to say to make him realize he wants you and only you.
To view the free video, go here.
10) He practically never initiates contact with you.
In most circumstances, who contacts who first?
Be brutally honest in this situation.
If it’s almost always you, this man is either on a top-secret assignment like James Bond or is trying to avoid you.
The truth is:
A man will make time, no matter how busy he is, to send a quick text to a girl he likes.
That is simply a fact.
If you’re always the one to initiate contact and he’s continually dropping the ball and leaving conversations early, he’s just not that into you.
Here are a couple more symptoms to keep in mind.
He includes you in his activities whenever possible.
Another encouraging indicator that a busy guy still wants you is when he incorporates you in what he’s busy with.
According to Talia, a relationship expert, at The Insider:
“He may invite you to activities in which he participates so that the two of you can spend more time together.”
For example, a musician may invite you to gigs or rehearsals where he is performing so that you can at least be around him.”
It may not always go as well as this…
But here’s the thing:
A busy guy will do his best to keep you busy of his activities while yet making you feel like a part of his life.
When he’s around you, he worships you.
Pay attention to how a guy acts around you, no matter how busy he is.
The reality is:
There’s a big difference between a man who’s attracted and one who’s apathetic or uninterested.
But it’s also not completely out of your hands.
There are strategies and approaches you may use to make him regard you as his one and only and fall head over heels for you.
I learned how to make even the most commitment-phobic man want to stay with you from relationship expert James Bauer.
Check out this fantastic free video to learn how to utilize scientific tactics to make him love you so much that he never wants to be apart from you again.
Should you continue or not?
You’re undoubtedly confused and upset if you’re dealing with a busy man.
If he exhibits several of the symptoms of simply making excuses for being busy, you should probably move on.
But if he’s still undecided, my advise is to let him prove himself.
You should have a better understanding of why knowing where your boyfriend stands on committing to you is important.
So the goal now is to communicate with him in a way that empowers both him and you.
I mentioned the hero impulse before – by appealing directly to his primitive instincts, you can not only address this problem, but you will elevate your relationship to new heights.
And, because this free video explains exactly how to activate your man’s hero instinct, you might make this transformation as soon as today.
With James Bauer’s brilliant idea, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So, if you’re ready to take the jump, watch the video right now.
Here’s another link to his outstanding free video.
What if a relationship coach could help you?
Talking to a relationship coach can be very helpful if you are looking for specific advice regarding your situation.
This is something I have personally experienced…
When I was going through a tough patch in my relationship, I reached out to Relationship Hero. The insights they gave me into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track were invaluable for me after being lost in my thoughts for so long.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a website where highly trained relationship coaches guide people through difficult times in their love lives.
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Despite being new to coaching, I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and helpful my coach was.
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