Were you able to break free from a toxic relationship?
First and foremost, you have my total admiration!
The main issue with toxic relationships is that you may not even be aware that you are in one. Mistreatment progressively becomes a part of your life, so you grow accustomed to it.
When your abuser is in a good mood, there may be wonderful times that help you forget about unpleasant events that have already occurred or are likely to occur.
Addiction to toxic relationships exists. You have some kind of security, so you can’t burn that bridge. You have someone who is meant to care about you and should look out for you.
But since you lack knowledge, you continue to follow him.
Managing toxic relationships is difficult. In this style of relationship, you believe that it is up to you to determine your level of happiness.
You believe that things do not simply appear out of thin air and that it is your responsibility to maintain your relationship.
Although there is no wrong in making an effort, keep in mind that you must fight for someone who is deserving of your support.
Abusers are not worthy of being defended.
The main factor in toxic relationships is fear. Most women continue to believe that being in a bad relationship is preferable to being alone.
They lack the guts to leave their abusers behind.
However, some of them do muster the resolve to leave their violent relationship, just to run into a new problem.
They meet a new person, and everything they expected a relationship to entail was completely outside of their comfort zone. They’re used to getting horrible treatment.
When you meet a decent guy after the one who made you feel awful, the following things may occur.
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You will receive time and assistance to develop self-love.
Learning to love oneself must come first on your list of priorities. Since nobody can truly know what is best for you, you must have faith in yourself.
The only person who is aware of and in charge of that aspect of your life is you.
You’ll have the ideal environment to develop into the self-loving woman you need to be if you’re with a decent guy.
You are prepared to proceed to the next level once you have completed this.
You’ll feel ‘strange’ but unidentified emotions.
When you finally meet a decent guy, grab him by the horns and don’t let go since you’ve already endured enough pain.
Consider embracing your wholesome and good relationship rather than being afraid of new emotions.
You still aren’t ready to comprehend that all of them are designed to be that way.
He will appreciate that you went through hell and back, so don’t be scared to let yourself go.
Expect the same story to repeat itself
You no longer believe in humans. You fear that you will experience the same treatment after being treated like s**t.
Then, you can’t get rid of the feeling that the new relationship is the same as the old one when you first start dating.
You can’t possibly think that someone will be there for you who won’t mistreat you.
Now that you’ve received the treatment you deserved (love), you can’t comprehend why you continued in your toxic relationship. You settled for a guy who doesn’t deserve you.
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You’ll scrutinize things excessively.
He treats you with the respect you deserve, but something bothers you.
He is acting that way because he cares about you, but you can’t accept that. You overthink everything and search for hidden agendas.
There are none, though.
To reassure yourself that he doesn’t intend to hurt you, you’ll most likely maintain your distance and take a different approach.
Then, perhaps, you will understand that he truly loves you and has no ulterior motivations.
You’ll wonder if he’s real
You can’t shake the feeling that your relationship will falter at any moment.
You anticipate that he will snap. Maybe he’ll take off the “goodie-goodie” disguise and reveal his true self.
He does not change, though; he is still patient, understanding, and eager to adore you. You should totally have faith in him, but your wounds are still raw. He is aware that it will take time.
You’re anticipating the “perfect storm”
Fights erupt out of the blue in toxic relationships. You can’t even unwind right now since you always feel as though fighting is ready to start.
Because fighting and abuse were a regular occurrence in your life, you now anticipate them.
You can’t comprehend why he isn’t that way. You are perplexed by his differences because you are accustomed to a quite different situation.
I’m sure you’ll apologize a lot
You were accustomed to making excuses for others all the time because of the ongoing arguments in your prior relationship.
You used to apologize to your boyfriend purely to make him feel better and prevent arguments. Also, you expressed regret for your actions and inactions.
The more you trust him, the easier it will be for you
You will eventually start to fully trust your boyfriend since you will grow accustomed to receiving the favorable treatment that you deserve.
You’ll come to understand that he will never injure you and doesn’t want to.
You’ll gradually start exposing your vulnerable side to him now that you’ve finally ensured he won’t ever hurt you.
Then, you’ll discover what real love is. Your toxic experience will make you stronger, but only once you start to trust people again.
You will at last understand what it is to love someone who returns your love and respects you.
Trust your journey my dear.
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