The Art of Texting: 18 Text Messages to Make Him Want You

Looking for some amazing text messages to capture his attention? …Wondering when is a good time to text him after your first date? ….Perhaps a blossoming romance has gone cold, and you’re looking to put some heat into it?

Or do you just want to try something new to impress your partner when he is away from you?

I know what you may be wondering…

“Should I message him first?

What should I write without seeming clingy?

Why Not Text Him?

Whatever the case may be, you’re in the right place as I’ve compiled a list of 18 (plus bonus) text messages to make a man continually think of you. 

However, before using any of them, you should carefully read the following sentences.

There is a little-known but very important aspect of male psychology that you need to be aware of.

A deep understanding of this psychological trigger can make all the difference to a man’s view of you. 

This is known as the “Hero Instinct”. Until I learned this, I consistently struggled to hold a man’s interest. 

When I finally understood it, my relationships became 10x more loving, passionate, and secure (read my personal story to learn more).

Using this trigger is so easy that you will kick yourself for not finding it sooner. 

If you’re looking for a way to leave a lasting impression on your man, read about how I discovered the ‘Hero Instinct’.

After that, you can use these 18 unmissable texts to grab his attention.

To begin, I’ll provide you with some guidelines for texting a man.

Don’t make yourself too available.

You need to make sure that your man actually misses you when you are not with him. As a result, it is important that you don’t text him too much. The fact that you keep talking to him might get him annoyed, and it won’t have the positive effect of making him think of you and miss you.

Therefore, the six texts we will discuss need to be used occasionally. When you are constantly texting him, these texts are unlikely to trigger much response from him. Make him miss you instead of making him tired of you.

Don’t reply to him straight away.

The idea of playing mind games with him won’t work most of the time, and that’s a waste of time for everyone. However, it is vital that you don’t text him back right away if you want the exciting chase between you and your man to continue.

It is important to make it seem like you have a separate life and are busy. As I am sure you are. Yet, he needs to know that you do not only live for him. While getting a text from him can be really exciting, try to distract yourself so that you don’t respond right away.

Check the speed at which he replies to your messages as well. Don’t make it seem like you’re the one who’s more interested. When he takes hours to reply and you reply straight away, it makes you appear desperate.

Also, don’t send him two texts at the same time.

You can add a tone to your words by using emojis and GIFs.

Warning: I’m not telling you to use emojis all the time. Having a row of emojis is just downright annoying and you are not a teenager. When used correctly, emojis can be an effective way to convey a tone to your messages. 

Your man might not understand how you want your texts to sound if he doesn’t see your facial expressions or hear your voice. For instance, “You’re rude, aren’t you!” sounds mean and aggressive compared to, “You’re rude, aren’t you (with a winking emoji face)”. Emojis have a way of making sentences sound flirty, light, and sarcastic.

A good way to add a bit more context to your messages is by using GIFs. In addition, there is an extensive collection of funny GIFs that could make him smile or laugh.

You don’t need to go over the top, but adding one emoji to every other text you send can be cute and helpful to him when trying to understand the conversation.

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Please don’t be negative.

The more often you complain, moan or try to start an argument with your man, the less likely he will want to speak to you, and the less likely he will want to think about you. There’s an old saying that goes, if there’s nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. This is especially true when it comes to texting your man.

If you want him to think about you and miss you, don’t speak negatively to him. Nothing will make him leave you faster. Whenever you argue with him or complain to him, that will be on his phone for life. He will remember how negative you were.

Be sure to keep a positive attitude when you text him, or if you have something to complain about, you might say something like, “I’m having a bad day, and I know you could make it better.”

1. Sexual text messages.

• “I can’t stop thinking about the way you touched me last night.”
• “I’m so turned on by you that I can’t think straight after being away from you.”
• “I am touching myself over you.”

Males are sexual creatures. It’s more common for them to think with their penis than their minds. It is a sure way to hook your man if you send him a sexual text message like the one above. He’ll get all hot and bothered remembering previous times when you were together.

There’s a chance he’ll start sexting you, and he can’t stop thinking about you. Find out who can make the other person look hotter. This is a great way to bond or spice up your relationship if you have been together for a while.

While you are still getting to know each other, you can still send him risqué texts, and it can be a real turn-on for him. Say something to the effect of “I can’t control myself around you”. You are not only showing him that you are 100% interested in having sex with him, but it also gives him the opportunity to reciprocate. The next time you see each other, you might feel more comfortable and ready to get down to business after exchanging a few dirty texts like this.

You can also send nude photos or photos in which you are teasing him, if you feel comfortable doing so. It is important not to feel pressured into sending anything. A good man will appreciate you if you don’t feel comfortable exchanging photos or sexting.

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2. Start the conversation for him.

Isn’t it nice when your man shows an interest in your day and asks you questions? Of course it is, since it allows you to share all the interesting things that happened to you during the day with him. Wouldn’t it be nice if you did this for him too?

As selfish as it sounds, it’s a fact that we all like to talk about ourselves. Make him feel at ease by asking him questions. This way, he will feel like you care about him and what he is doing, as well as learn more about him and what he does outside of dating.

You can be very simple and ask, “How was your day?”. However, this is a pretty strange way to start a conversation, and he is probably going to reply something along the lines of, “Good, and you?”. Be more personal. Keep in mind what he has said to you recently, or if you know he is excited or nervous about something, follow up on it.

It will mean a lot to him that you listened to him. You showed great initiative in doing so. 

Using similar questions to those below, you may open the conversation up for him:

• “How did today’s meeting with your boss go?”

• “What a gorgeous evening it is. Do you have any plans for later?” The question is a good one since it not only allows him to tell you his plans, but also implies that you want to see him. If he gets the hint, he’ll probably ask you to meet.

• “I know you said you were going to that gig this weekend. Are you still excited about it?”

• “I’m considering getting a new computer. Can you offer any advice? I’d really appreciate it if you could help.” It’s obviously not a good idea to ask this question if you’re not getting a new computer. However, this can apply to anything. He will love it if you ask for his opinion on something or his advice on what you ought to do. Men like to feel needed and like their opinions matter. They want to be helpful.

3. Remind him of the good times you’ve shared.

• “I just heard the song we danced to when we first met.”
• I just walked by the bar where we had our first date. Wasn’t it magical?”.

• “I was just going through my old photos and remember that time we took a road trip?”
• “Someone that just walked past me was wearing the same fragrance as you and it made me miss you.”

You might find this point challenging if you’ve just begun dating, but there is sure to be some point you can bring up. I’m not talking about sex this time. Get back to the first point if you want to remind him how much fun you had with him.

I would like you to think of something you have done together that has created a memory. Memory is something that we are constantly reminded of. A song, a scent or a drive past where that memory occurred can trigger a memory. Any time you remember the two of you together, let him know.

Whenever you remind him of a memory he has with you, he will start thinking about it and won’t be able to let it go. He will want to create new great memories with you.

No mention of bad memories, of course. Remember, you’re trying to get him to think positively of you.

4. Praise and show him affection.

• “I bet you were amazing today in the meeting.”
• “The way you treated me yesterday was so sweet, I can’t stop thinking about it.”
• “I miss your warm bear hugs that made me feel so safe.”
• “I’m impressed with your talent as a sportsman. Please let me watch you play soon.”

Praise is something everyone enjoys. It makes us feel good about ourselves. One of the best feelings is receiving praise from someone you like or love. If you praise your man, he knows that he is impressing you and therefore making you happy.

As can be seen from the examples above, you can give praise and affection through texts.

Therefore, if you start praising your man and showing affection to him through text, he will be filled with joy. Most likely, the praise you have given him will go full circle and he will also begin to praise and be affectionate toward you. The situation is win-win.

Because you make him feel good, he will want to see you again as soon as possible.

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5. Try not to be too serious all the time.

• You can send him a funny video that you know will brighten his day.
• “I just fell on my way into the office,” followed by a funny GIF or picture of yourself.
• “Yo, you want sex, with me?” Try to be sarcastic, being flirty in a funny way. Make him have a good laugh by not taking yourself too seriously.
• You can send a picture of yourself pulling a funny face with a witty caption.

If a woman can make a man laugh, it is one of the biggest turns on for him. Laughter makes us feel good physically, as well as letting a man know that we do not take ourselves or life too seriously. However, if you discuss life and your relationship with him continually, he will feel dragged down and it will become monotonous between you.

Especially when it comes to texts, you can never really tell what the tone of voice is because you can’t tell from the text. He will want to pick up his phone and reply to you if he receives funny and lighthearted texts from you. He will smile and laugh because you made him feel good.

It is more likely that he will turn the phone face down and reply when he is able to read it and reply in a similar tone if you are sending him serious messages.

6. Send him pictures that will make him laugh or smile.

• “How do you like my hair today?” “Not sure.” With a cute photo attached. He will also appreciate you asking.
•  “Take a look at my drawing from art class” with an attached photo.
•  “Look at this photo I found of us last year” along with an attached photo of you two from last year. He will not only love the photo of you two, but he will also be reminded of great memories with you.

Sending him a photo will make him think of you. Taking pictures of yourself looking beautiful can be a great way to remind him of how pretty you are. Keep in mind, though, that you don’t want to send too many, as you should keep him interested in and excited about seeing you again in person.

Also, you can send him photos of anything you think he might be interested in, such as a drawing you did in an art class (as in the example above). Any idea that will get him thinking about what you are doing will be a good idea for you to share with him.

As well as asking him what he is doing, you should also ask if he wants to send you a photo of himself so you can see him. Your interest in him will make him feel really good. Once he sends you a photo, you can tell him that he looks sexy.

Final words

Hopefully, you have learned six different types of texts to send to your man to make him think of you, as well as some vital dos and don’ts of texting him.

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